Fear of failure; steps to overcome it

FEAR OF FAILURE

Do you know when you started walking, maybe around 1 year. When you had started walking without support, you had fallen a lot of times but never feared failure hence you had learned that most difficult skill.

🔹 Fear is normal human emotions like joy, stress or anxiety. But fear is one strong emotion which creates doubt on own ability ultimately stall the progress

🔹 Fear occurs in response to situation occurring in the present (Seeing Dog) or in anticipation of future (If I don't qualify for MPSC )

🔹 Everyone experiences fear of failure in their life, but how you tackle the issue will determine your success

 *In short...* There is one thing that makes dreams impossible, the fear of failure.

🔴 *Symptoms of fear*

Symptoms are body language, if you reevaluate your daily life....

🔹 Headache

🔹 Sleep disturbances

🔹 Want to run away from situation

🔹 Intense feeling of panic

🔹 Feeling helpless

       .... You are suffering from fear of failure

 *Remember...* The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.

🔴 *How to overcome the fear of failure?*

❇️ Be aware of fear

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🔹 Awareness of the problem is the first step towards solution 

🔹 Again self talk is important, Whether it's real or physical or imaginary means psychological 

Example : If you are giving a speech for the first time, real fear is speaking in front of a tiger and imaginary fear is speaking in front of students.

🔹 If it is real, do something immediately 

🔹 If it is imaginary, write it down.

❇️ Put it under microscope 

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Microscope means see minute things large. Maximum students keep on thinking, but it will never solve the problem. Say STOP to your self talk and think logically. 

Write the following point and evaluate in a sequence..... 

🔹 What is the fear? 

🔹 Why is there fear & how to tackle it? 

🔹 Imagine the worst scenario 

🔹 What can I do now? 

 *Still remember...* Thinking will not overcome fear but action will

❇️ What is the fear? 

There are different types of fear..... 

🔹 Fear of failure 

It means not achieving desired result 

🔹 Fear of change

As we move to higher education, everything is new including friends. A big change approach and you start fearing whether the change will be pleasant or not 

🔹 Fear of alienation 

Some students are afraid of making new friends 

🔹 Fear of public speaking 

As the name suggests.

 *Remember...* In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than fear of failure

❇️ Why there is a fear of failure? 

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🔹 Poor performance 

🔹 Pressure from parents 

🔹 Over Personalization

🔺 Poor performance 

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Poor academic performance not only creates fear of failure but also causes significant stress.

🔹 How to overcome poor performance? 

🔳 Principle of success 

# Goal setting + Planning + Motivation + Smart hard work....  

Read my blog on Facebook, "Positive parenting " or watch videos on YouTube, "Dr Ashish Agrawal ."

🔳 Overcome the obstacles 

Read my blog on Facebook or watch video on YouTube like Immediate gratification + Lack of self believe + Social media addiction + peer pressure + procrastination + lack of time management + Silly mistakes in exam + anxiety during exams, etc

🔺 How to overcome parental pressure? 

Read my blog or watch “Conflict with parents ."

🔺 Over personalization

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🔹 Some students give importance to other people's opinion. 

🔹 They live-in fear of what people will say if I fail to achieve my target.

🔹 How is it that we let what people may think or say run our lives, yet we wouldn't consider sacrificing our lives for these same people?

🔹 If you won't die for these people, why would you live a life dictated by the opinions of these people?

🔳 How to overcome personalization?

🔹 Get to know yourself 

Knowing yourself is an important part of success and happiness. It takes time to know yourself.

# If possible, write a journal about your daily life in a short. 

# Whenever you get free time (around 15 days), evaluate yourself. 

# Whenever you evaluate yourself, pay attention to the things that make you uncomfortable. 

# Divide all these things into two sections. Internal which consists of your parents, value, attitude or emotional reaction and External which consists of friends, neighbors, relatives, society.

# Always choose internal sphere over external sphere 

🔹 Think logically 

# How will you think if your friend fails to achieve target 

🔹 Remove negativity 

# Avoid friends and relatives who always speak negative about you.

# Always welcome constructive criticism by your near and dear ones 

 *Remember...* Maximum people spent time on thinking about themselves, no one cares about others

❇️ Imagine the worst scenario 

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Imagine the worst scenario like “I won't qualify for an MBBS seat.”

You need to free yourself from the endless loop of the worst scenario loop.

🔹Ask yourself, " Is it the end of the road.”

Ans is NO.

Abraham Lincoln, famous American president was born in a poor family, failed in business and marriage life, suffered from depression, lost the first election and then became the most famous president of all time. 

His word... If I can achieve, everyone can achieve success. 

🔹Remind yourself, " Whatever happen, I can cope"

# Sometimes we can choose half win, half failure like doing BDS instead of MBBS

# Even I can choose another field like fashion designing 

🔹Tell yourself, "It's not happening now". What can I do now? Live-in present and take action

 *In short...* Don't fear failure; In great attempt, it is glorious even to fail. 

❇️ Take action 

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🔹 What is option now.... take action 

# Start where are you 

# Use what you have

# Do what you can because the future depends on what you do today, "

🔹 As we learn from Bhagwat Gita that our job is to do karma and result will definitely come so focus on hard work 

🔹 Read my blog "How to overcome failure " on Facebook or watch videos on YouTube. 

 *In short...* Don, 't fear failure, fear absence of progress 

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Remember..... Fear has two meanings.... Forget everything and runaway *or* Face everything and rise

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻During his debut test match, Sachin Tendulkar was hit on the nose and fell down on the ground. He was offered to return to the pavilion, but he stood up and said " I will bat again ".

Dr Ashish Agrawal, Pediatrician and expert in child behavior, education and developmental problems.

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